Dating guy older
What about Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, who were 16 years apart when they were married?
Or, Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta-Jones, who are 25 years apart in age?
That, by the way, is actually a comparison I made at the time, which is so gross to me now.
I romanticized a story about an adult man kidnapping, molesting, and raping an adolescent girl.
I thought I was totally prepared to deal with the daily realities of having a boyfriend who was older than me by a decade-plus, which turned out to be less than correct.
Before I get into the real nitty gritty, though, a few caveats.
I grew up the only child of older parents (who are also 10 years apart), and often felt like an awkward old lady trapped inside a teeny-bopper’s body. I admit, I wasn’t as physically attracted to him as I had been to other partners. Have you ever seen a girl with a hideous boyfriend and thought, “Seriously, how the f$*k did he pull that off? Either he's just a nice friggin’ dude; or being with him boosts her self-confidence. The Olsen twins both have boyfriends 20 years their senior. I got that; but even though I knew there was no future, I didn’t cut it off completely. A 50-year-old playing 30 grew past its prime for me. If Mary Kate or Ashley was approachable and not icy fashion prodigies, I would love to ask how they make it work. After it ended, he talked to a lot of people about our relationship -- and what happened through the grapevine was unexpected. Women judged me as having an ulterior, economic motive: “She just dated him for his money,” or “She thought she could get ahead.” In our society people are so quick to judge a young, naïve woman -- never the older man who perhaps should’ve known better too. I have a friend who’s been married to someone for more than a decade who is 20 years older than her. In my case, the age gap was actually a cavernous black hole defying space and time. Another lesson in dating: a fling with someone in your professional/personal circle is more often than not bad news. He’s old and sick now, and she takes care of him (even financially), but she’s still partying and sleeping around. I sometimes imagine what would have happened if I had stayed with my older man. Well, my dears, you've come to the right place. Or, in Jess's (Zooey Deschanel's character, for those of you who aren't fans yet) case, don't ask about his health: "How's your prostate? Cece even tells Jess as she's first considering dating Russell (the one and only Fancypants) that "he intimidates you because you wouldn't have to take care of him, he'd take care of you."DON' T make your man feel older than he actually is (or date yourself).